AIO girlfriend (24F) called me a soyboy after finding out I'm (26M) a redditor (Trigger Warning)

I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year now, and I thought we had a really good relationship. We have similar interests, we make each other laugh, and overall, I felt like we really respected each other. But last night, something happened that I can’t stop thinking about, and honestly, I’m starting to question if she even respects me at all.

We were just hanging out, and somehow, Reddit came up in conversation. I mentioned that I use it pretty often—nothing crazy, just for news, hobbies, and some discussion threads. She immediately made a face and said, "Oh my god, you’re a Redditor? I should’ve known." I asked her what she meant by that, and she just laughed and said, "I don’t know, it just makes sense. You’re kind of a soyboy sometimes." I was completely taken aback. I asked her what the hell that was supposed to mean, and she kind of waved it off like it was just a joke, but it didn’t feel like one. It felt like she was putting me down over something stupid, and it honestly hurt.

I don’t know why, but I just started tearing up. I guess it just hit me all at once—this person I care about, who’s supposed to support me, just casually reduced me to some internet insult like I was beneath her. I wiped my eyes and tried to explain that it actually really upset me, but before I could even get the words out, she burst out laughing and said, "Dude, seriously? I just called you a soyboy hahaha." She wasn’t even trying to be mean at that point, she genuinely thought it was hilarious that I was reacting this way, which just made me feel even worse.

I tried to tell her that it wasn’t cool to just call me something like that, especially when I’ve never done anything to warrant that kind of insult, but she kept laughing and telling me to calm down. I don’t think she understands how belittling it felt. Am I crazy for being upset about this? It just feels like a huge sign of disrespect, and now I’m wondering if she sees me as some kind of joke. Using a throwaway as she knows my main account now. Am I overreacting here?

Edit: Wow. I knew there would be some trolls, but I didn’t expect this many people in the comments to say the exact same thing she did. If you’re here just to call me a soyboy again, congrats, you’re proving my point. Imagine getting mocked by the person you love and then coming online for some perspective, only to have strangers parrot the same insult like it’s the funniest thing in the world.

That being said, I really appreciate the people who actually understood where I’m coming from. Some of you get that this isn’t just about one word—it’s about respect in a relationship. Thank you for validating that my feelings actually matter. We are proud to be Redditors, and if that makes me a soyboy in some people’s eyes, so be it.