What age are most people suffering with BD? Age + some advice
Wondering what age most people are on here ?
Personally I was insecure about my looks when I was a teenager and struggling with my identity but as I grew older (currently in my 30s) I became satisfied and even extremely confident about the way I look.
What helped me reach this stage was the following:
1- My body eventually fully devoloped and I grew into my features and grew a sense of style and understood the colours/ hues which suited me and we're flattering on me. Also got braces, mocroblading and wore ear correctors.
2- Life's trials and tribulations allowed me to yearn for a greater purpose in life rather than the superficial nature of how I look. Personally, I focused on my faith and built strong social connections of non-shallow people with strong depth of character who were able to uplift me, there in my time of need and engaged in deep, enlightening conversations. If you're not sure if you have people like this in your life, a good indication is feeling a lot lighter and more positive once you leave the interaction with that person.
3- Keeping busy and productive, for me this looked like getting an education-> pursing a career-> parenthood. Idle time dwelling is the dwelling of devils!
4- Noticing the 'triggers' which pull you into the direction of self-loathing or over indulging and obsession about one's looks. E.g. this might look like filming yourself daily to analyse yourself at different angles, try to minimise this or even only film yourself sporadically when you are dressed up in a cute outfit.
5- self affirmations and positive thinking: I try to always tell myself I look good everyday or even 'If I got glammed up I would look so good', put quotes up on my walls and practised self love! I don't need validation from others, God dignified me by creating me and I love me!
Thoughts!
Edit: Noone here 40 or above, that's promising folks! Let's practise self love sooner rather than later and seek a greater purpose in life rather than wasting time with shallow thoughts and people!