Child’s funeral service

I have a friend and neighbor who just lost their 9 year old in a house fire. It was her shit ex’s house and he and the older son got out, but the youngest didn’t. I don’t even want to get into the details bc the whole situation is so fucked, painful, and complicated.

I’m an atheist and ex Christian. In fact, the service was in my childhood church so I’m familiar with it all. However, I really struggled listening to the sermon. How can you diminish this boys life and what happened to “god works in mysterious ways…”? It was disgusting. I was shaking angry. Everyone there is religious and so happy the boy “loved Jesus” so he wasn’t, you know, just burning in hell. I feigned my way through, but it added this level of surreal I had not experienced before. This was also just a really intense event.

Has anyone dealt with this? I was such the odd man out.