How do you deal with constant shaming from relatives?

When I was born they had a problem with my dusky skin, I lightened over time so that was no longer an issue. Then they had issues with my acne during puberty and would constantly give me "advice" every time they would see me. I've invested a lot in skincare since I was a teenager.

Then they had issues with my curly hair. They would constantly tell me to tie it up. I had it chemically straightened so they would get off my back.

My parents didn't like my grades so I worked hard and became a straight A student towards the end of high school and throughout my undergrad. My cousins would imply that I'm a loser for not having enough friends and now my parents are annoyed that I'm always planning trips with my friends. And today my grandmother kept calling me fat. When is this going to end?

If there's any 30+ women that have any advice on how to deal with this or if it gets easier over time do let me know. I've tried ignoring but it affects me psychologically.

I think my family thinks since I end up doing exactly what they want me to do, they keep shaming me harder.

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