Sparring etiquette in my country is fucked

I live in a western European country where the sparring etiquette is really fucked imo. Last week I almost got my leg chopped off with a low kick, I limped for a week and had to push through my morning runs. In sparring everyone is super tense and I feel like it snowballs from one sparring session to the next one.

Because you're always in fight or flight mode you can't learn properly or try out new things; you're scared of getting clocked. People can't seem to get their egos in check either.

It's insane actually and it's been like this at all the three gyms I visited here. I want to start training for competition soon but it's not worth it for me to get brain damage, let alone by hard sparring.

I'm having a hard time with this and it pisses me off and saddens me. Especially after training in Thailand.

Sorry for the rant but I needed to share this as it's kinda ruining the sport for me. Anyone else having a similar experience? Any tips on how to handle this? I'm gonna visit a 4th gym this week in the hopes of it being better there. If that doesn't work I'll probably try and adopt a more defensivise/elusive style to protect my brain. Or stop sparring altogether and train at home more.