The interaction with Sarah that broke my heart

I posted this in the main sub, but I've a feeling it will be better received here...

Hey spacefarers. I'm currently enjoying my first ever playthough of this wonderful game, if quite grateful to have only gotten the chance to play it once a bunch of the bugs were ironed out. It really is fun.

Anyway, I'd be lying if I said I hadn't spent most of the many hours I've already spent traversing the galaxy swooning over one Commander Sarah Morgan. Divisive on this sub, I know, but I'm a lesbian with mommy issues and she's a tough older woman with a troubled past... go figure.

Naturally, we're married now, and (my apologies to Cora Coe) it wasn't even a question who I'd save in High Price To Pay. So long, space cowboy. I've progressed in the main quest to the point of meeting the Hunter and the Emissary; Constellation know what the Unity is, we just need to gather the remaining artifacts and build it.

Cue my absolute DEVASTATION and utter HEARTBREAK when Sarah wants to talk about the potential ramifications of the Unity, and what it might mean for us. I'm not ashamed to say that I cried when she told me I'm the love of her life and she doesn't want to lose me to another universe -- she'd already lost so much! She took a risk in opening up again! She learned to trust me!

The aforementioned heartbreak came when I realised none of my responses to her telling me this were "Ditto, babe, we're clearly soulmates, let's bounce." In fact, all four possible answers pretty much amounted to variances on "Tough shit, sweetcheeks, it's happening." I actually didn't want to continue playing because I was upset by all of the options.

Now, I realise that's the point of the game: to steer you towards NG+, your exploration of the cosmos and all of the potential new parallel worlds. But... I'm an emotional gay with a big heart, and I've been playing this character as closely to my own personality as I can. There's no way I would respond like that to her if she made herself so vulnerable and asked me to at least consider all my options.

The whole point of romancing Sarah is helping her to open up and trust again; she doesn't just let you in straight away, and she's cautious at every step, because of her huge fear of losing you, like she lost the crew of the Dauntless. I was genuinely a bit distressed that I couldn't even say I would /think/ about it, or tell her how much she means to me too!

I realise it's not real before someone comments to call me a loser. I know! Don't worry! But, for me, one of the joys of gaming is how immersive and emotional it can be, and how much it can make you feel. I wanted to tell her she was the love of /my/ life, and that the only universe I wanted was the one where we were together!

Anyway, I'm not sure if it's the same with all potential romance options -- I haven't even considered anyone else 😂 -- but this seems a huge overstep on Bethesda's part. Why spend so much time emphasising that the members of Constellation realise their connections are more important than the possibility of the Unity, if I'm not allowed to feel the same way?

I mostly just wanted to get this off my chest, as I've been annoying all my friends by complaining about it. If you can't tell by my rambling, I'm autistic and Starfield has definitely become a bit of a special interest of late, so I feel very attached to my Space Wife. It doesn't help that I have a real wife who I utterly adore and would never abandon for a new universe! Let me be a romantic fool, Bethesda! Let me choose love!