Should Both Parents Have a Say in Who Watches Your Child (even if it’s family)?

I want to check myself since I am in the SAHP isolation bubble.

My spouse told his therapist he would need to check with me prior to having our almost 15 MO be watched by family who have not previously watched her. The therapist apparently seemed shocked that he would have to “ask permission” rather than just say to me “so and so is going to watch her”.

Am I misguided in thinking that it is a normal / reasonable request to be involved? I spend all day, every day with her and we don’t really trust many people to watch her.

It might help to note - He thought taking her to an hourly drop off childcare for ages 1-12 with a 14:1 ratio was an excellent idea.

Edit: Thank you all. I was starting to feel like maybe I was crazy. When something like that comes from what should be a trusted professional it makes you doubt your own self.