My moms house burned down, my boss and manager comment on my being so nonchalent about it

My mom lives in altadena, she bought a house there with her husband and was raising my little sisters twins (12) and my adult step brother (21)lives with them as well. I am 21 I haven't been to her house in about 4 years but she visited me multiple times in New Orleans where she is from. My older sister died last year, and her first son died unexpectedly at 6 months when she lived very far from a hospital , like 4 hours I think. She never talks about that , but we talk about my sister dying a lot. My sister died unexpectedly from a fentany over does. I am sad for my mom that she never catches a break. She doesn't act like she never catches a break, she is so positive and a strong person. But it sucks. I don't know if she will get insurance money and I don't think it will be enough for them to keep living in LA . I don't know how that works.

My mom grew up in a turbulent situation, her mom didn't have custody of her and her father was manic depressive and an alcoholic. Her grandparents were good but it was turbulent. She moved out with her sister when she was 15. I did the same thing basically when I was 16. My dad was also an alcoholic , and has severe wet brain . I hospitalized him and he lives in a facility.

My mom is very positive and sweet and it sucks she lost the peaceful home she has been building. To be honest because my life has been so turbulent, I think this turbulence will probably be character building and alright for my little sisters, which maybe is unusual, but I think it's alright.

My mom's husband is very mentally strong and optimistic. He is a Russian immigrant, and was coming of age when his country was collapsing and rebirthing. He is greatful everyone is alive. I think maybe they should come live by me and that would be nice. Her husband's family is all dead, and even if he has cousins alive they are in Russia. My mom's only family is in New Orleans, and one daughter in Alabama. That would also be nice.

My work was like wow you are so non challent about your mom's house burning down, but also they gave me a right up ( one write up and then your fired ) for overly emotional behavior when I cried at work when my sister's new born baby got a fever. Not like massive sobbing just got teary eyes, and explained myself to make it less awkward . My coworkers I work with directly said it was an uncharacteristic write up. I don't face the public in my job too. I really dread going to work honestly . My manager , a very emotionally dominating woman has never lost any loved ones ( she has told me this ) and it's exhausting being around someone who has no resliance or self awareness. She has cried at work or yelled at people because she's having a bad day . People really don't understand when shit is on the floor so what all you can do is go to work and do your best to act normal. I never act rude or unkind to people when it's a hard day. I worked the anniversary of my sister's death , and her birthday, and no one noticed anything different except people I chose to talk to.

I am 21 I don't have any credit cards or debt and I don't know what it's like to be in debt. I have a brother in law who declared bankruptcy. I imagine it's honestly fine if my mom has to accumulate some debt to move to Louisiana, or try to restart her life. Obviously it's not great, but in the end it will be alright I imagine . I am obviously worried but I hate being judged for having a different reaction, esspecually when I was told to have this specific reaction.