Rant I guess

Hello gay bros, thank you in advance ☺️, just want your opinion on what should I do.

So here the story, I started to join "the gay world" when I was 21 but I didn't do much at that time I was shy and scared ( only did like one bj/hj or like 2 hookup, safe only of course) and when I turned like 23 I was so horny and slutty 😅 ( I tune it down now though 25 now).

Okay so I wanted to know where did I go wrong or how can I find a long term relationship. I try to find through friends, I went to gay bar, I used apps ( bumble, tinder, reddit (online dating i know 💀) and even hookup apps like grindr), I try just looking for friends only ( using reddit to find friends, bumble best friend). All of those really give me a bad experience, if you name it I 90% probably experience it. Then I stop looking and been working on myself and they somehow found me instead, it's like a dumpster... I am a trash magnet ... I don't know why I kept finding these people. Am I doomed to be alone 😔. Can you tell me what I am doing wrong or any advice for me.

Thank you again in advance.