I can’t tolerate flakiness.

We get the reputation of this. And it’s true for me. I get really annoyed when people flake on me or don’t stick to what they say they’ll do. My favorite people are solid as rocks - if we have plans, I know they’re sticking to it. Surprisingly, it’s my air and fire sign friends who have been this way most. Water signs… we have this issue. My close Cancer friend and I had a falling out a couple years ago because she would flake on our plans all the time and I finally expressed frustration about it and she went OFF on me. We’re friends again, I told her I couldn’t rebuild trust but after a year I reached out and we’re close again. I know what to expect with her and act accordingly, but I don’t think I could do that for a partner.

I’ve been dating a Cancer for the past month and a half and it’s been amazing but I kind of think he was hiding his flakiness at the beginning and I’m slowly starting to see it crop up. Just like saying we should hangout and then postponing it a day, suggesting we do a fun activity and then being like “so what do you want to do?” As if we hadn’t discussed doing that fun thing (I.e , he doesn’t really want to do the fun thing anymore). They think they get away with it because they always say it like “we SHOULD do something tomorrow” instead of “let’s do something tomorrow.”

I know I’m a type a person. They say opposites attract but I just struggle so much with flakiness. It’s a person to person thing so maybe this guy and I just aren’t right for each other. Water signs and I have danced the dance so many times and it always goes the same.. I probably need a Taurus or something.