sweet and successful first date!

hi all! just wanted to share for those who feel as though they’re losing a bit of hope in the dating game; i’ve been there and i’ve just been super unmotivated the last 2 years to date. something about the dating scene now feels so weird. but, i just wanted to put myself out there so i downloaded hinge late last week. i was hesitant because the last few years of being on and off the app, the people liking me/who i was matching with just weren’t it for me. you guys know how it is on the apps sometimes!

anyway, i (25f) matched with a guy (24m) after he messaged me from one of my prompts, and he said that i seemed really cool and that my name “matches the elegant look” i captivate. we messaged for a couple days, then he spontaneously asked me out for drinks since he was enjoying getting to know me after text. typically i wouldn’t go on a date in the middle of the week, but it was my early day and i would just rather bite the bullet then than postpone to the weekend or next week. i agreed, and right away he made a reservation to a restaurant near me so i didn’t have to drive too far.

when we met up, we waited a minute for our table and he said that he hoped they made the accommodations he asked for. they led us into the back room and it was a sort of candlelit dinner, they just had a dim lamp on our table, but the thought from him counts! he pulled out my chair, ordered my drink for me, and paid for everything! we chatted for a couple hours, then walked around the downtown area when the restaurant/bar closed. he not only gave me one of his jackets, but TWO! he also did put his arm around me a couple times while walking around, and i thought that was very sweet.

we already established we both would like to go on a second date, and i’m looking forward to seeing where this is heading! i’ve never had someone take initiative like that, nor do something so “out of their way” for a first date. for those who feel down in the dumps about their dating life not going well, i’ve been there! i’ve planned dates and been ghosted, i’ve played the game of chasing/not chasing; it’s exhausting. it’s been ongoing bad luck for a couple years, but i hope this gave someone a little boost that there will be someone who will come along!