Anyone had any worse dates?

I’ve recently been on 2 dates with this guy and my God, I thought he was a charmer but boy was I wrong. This guy was a psycho. First date was fun and we talked about our previous relation(s) and on the second date was where shit went down.

So, we spoke for a week on text before meeting up on a date. Multiple times he tried to call me during working hours but my job is quite busy and I do a lot of assessments over the telephone. Most of the time I don’t have breaks and only check my phone until finishing time. I put my phone on DND as not to get distracted as I work as a nurse and any mistakes can be critical. Of course my family are aware to call my work phone for emergencies as someone (if not me) is most likely to pick it up. On the first date, he poked fun at me for not using my phone during working hours. But I let it go quickly. I also told him that I’ve only been in one relation since 2020. I’ve leaernt a lot from that experience so I just wanted to take my time to find someone. Again, he kept poking fun at this and he couldn’t believe that someone could stay single for so long. After the date, he messaged me that night saying the fact that I haven’t dated anyone for years and the fact that my phone is on DND is a red flag. Keep in mind, he was saying this in a joking way. I have a sense of humour so I just laughed along but something did feel off but I put that down due to anxiety

Now on the second date. Everything goes great. We both laughed. Now, mid game (we went bowling), we ordered a drink to our table and when the drinks came, I just paused our conversation and thanked the lady who brought the drinks. And then I asked him if he can continue with his story (story was about how he saved the day. He talked a lot about himself and any meaningful questions I asked, he avoided). At this point, I’ve made up my mind I cannot see this guy again. After the lady leaves, this guy told me never to interrupt him while he’s talking and he does not want to continue the conversation because he didn’t feel like I was listening to him. The whole time I was so attentive. With my anxiety I always pay extra attention as I’m afraid normally to miss something out as I’ll be shaking in my boots. Social interaction is a bitch lol

But anyway, he takes me home and before I get out of the car, he asks me a question. He asked ‘would you be okay sleeping with someone that you’re vibing with?’. I said no. I explained that for me to sleep with someone, I have to know to know that we both want to try and have to make the relationship official, rather than just going with vibes. I don’t judge anyone who does it. I explained it is just not for me.

He then asked when I last had sex. I told him it’s been more than a year. I explained I did use to have a fuck buddy but I didn’t really feel comfortable with it so I stopped.

This guy went ballistic and and went on a rant saying that I was immature and that I should just be able to have sex with anyone I am vibing with. Kept calling me a red flag and he didn’t want me to speak or if I spoke, he twisted it. He started talking about his insecurity and feel I am just lying to him. He started insulting me and kept repeating how mature he is and how he can tell that I am not. So by the time, I voiced my opinion, my voice was shaky and I use my hands a lot to talk in general. This guy then actually leans back and starts saying why am I about to hit him? I actually gasped. He was able to see I was about to get out of the car and started saying ‘you cannot reject him’ and that I’m just a red flag anyway and I’m just using my emotions to guilt him. I got out the car and walking away.

I woke up to text messages the next day calling me arrogant, narcissist, a child and that no man would want me. I mean, my man was projecting hard. I ended up blocking him on everything. But before I did that, I told him to seek therapy, pray and learn to love himself. All I saw was a narcissist.

I’ve had a lot of bad dates but this was the most psychotic 😂