It's my birthday, my family sucks and no one cares

Hello Reddit,

For reasons I won't get into I'm not close with my family and I don't really have close friends. I lost my job a while back and couldn't find a new one, so I started grad school and planned to move back in with my mom for a bit so I could get through school faster.

Our relationship has always been strained. Originally I was supposed to move in with my sister, another strained relationship, and she decided last minute she didn't want me living there, putting the onus on my mother to make sure I didn't end up homeless. Now I'm living with my mother and her long-term partner in a neighboring state. I like it here but she's making me life hell.

Today is my birthday. She texted me happy birthday, and then as soon as she saw me in person she started asking me to look at her work computer (I am / was an IT tech / admin for almost 15 years). Aside from being hurt that she's taken my sister's side on this whole thing and shown me no empathy at any point, to be barked at like that during such a difficult time, on my birthday, is just kind of too much.

I'm not close with any other family. I get along with her partner, but he's generally busy and stressed out with his own problems.

Despite all this I have reason to celebrate—my legal name change is finally official. I've been waiting years for this.

Unfortunately I'm celebrating alone in "my" room by doing homework.

I don't know what I did in life to deserve this. I'm trying so hard. I know I can be difficult but I don't understand why it's so hard for everyone to see my efforts and just give me even a little break.

Thanks for reading.