Debunking Common Findom Myths (ADD YOURS)
There’s SO much bs to navigate when you’re a beginner. The right Education is so desperately needed in this space. I hope this post is helpful & engaging! I’ll start….
Findom IS NOT easy money. You must learn a skill set, build up your online presence, figure out who you are as a Domme, learn how to be a Domme, ethics, BDSM, consent, show up every single day, offer other services, create content….etc etc etc
You’ll find sustainable success in findom without understanding Femdom
Ok this one grinds my gears. Findom is a kink under the much greater umbrella of Femdom. If you don’t understand Femdom…you’re not a Domme. Period. You’ll likely struggle to build meaningful connections, you won’t understand seductive domination, power dynamics, etc. it’s offensive to appear one day as a self proclaimed Findom having no knowledge of femdom. Without knowledge of femdom…you’re a glorified vanilla sugar baby. You’re a pretender…and the subs will smell it 10000 miles away. I said what I said.
Femdom should come before findom.
Findom is just about bullying men & getting paid.
This couldn't be further from the truth. Findom is about creating a consensual relationship between a domme and her sub. Bullying or coercing subs is wildly unethical….example “fuck you paypig loser send now” or 50 Dommes commenting on a bait post saying “approach” or DMing a Sub who posted on PPSG demanding shit. this is so gross & embarrassing….please stop.
Anyone can be a Findom
FALSE. I will die on this hill. Being a successful Findom requires a deep understanding of human psychology, emotional intelligence, and effective communication skills…and a bunch of other skills too. Being honest about the fact that this is sex work…it comes with risks and repercussions. It's not just about being dominant….it's about seduction…being able to navigate complex power dynamics, understanding a plethora of kinks, manage emotions, and create a safe, consensual environment. Not everyone is cut out for this.
You can fake it til you make it
False again. Authenticity is crucial. Most mildly experienced subs can spot a fake or insincere domme miles away. To build trust and a successful business, you need to be genuine & honest.