It’s genuinely surprising to me that people generally don’t see it as cheating/betrayal.

Doing research I know porn is an objectively harmful thing. It damages people. It’s incredibly depressing that it’s widely accepted as normal and even good. I feel like I’m as open-minded and tolerant as anyone can get, yet I’m considered a massive prude for having this belief.

I used to watch it, I stopped. I saw how badly it was affecting me. I feel like I have permanent damage from it. I was exposed to it far too young and I saw A LOT of things I shouldn’t have. I still struggle to get off without it. I still don’t find sex very exciting (though, to my credit, I haven’t had a single genuinely good sex partner).

It baffles me because I’d think that this would be a somewhat common belief. And it’s just not? I find myself wondering how. How is the common belief that looking at someone naked in a sexual context other than your partner ISN’T cheating??? I just genuinely cannot understand what people are even thinking.

My partner broke my trust irreversibly and I don’t think we can come back from it. But, he’s the only person I know who actually does hold the belief that porn is harmful.

I don’t know. It just hurts my brain a little. It makes me sad that my belief is considered ridiculous.