Wtf is wrong with my husband?

Today my husband left his phone at home it still had the porn he had watched that morning on his phone. Porn is Somthing we have had issues with over the last 10 years, causing ED at times, lots lies, self image issues ect... any way seeing that he was again lying about the porn use got me a tad triggered so a went for a good old snoop yes yes very bad of me breaking boundrys . Any way I went through his comments on fb cos he has a habit of just being a shit human on line. Lots of trolling ect. Any way the comments i saw were all fuken awful. From calling porn stars and other "sluts" awful fuken names, saying things like " un alive her" about that boney blue lady. And then filled with other nasty comments to every one he fuken crosses on the net. I'm so fuken distribed and sickened that he plays with him self In The morning to porn and then seemingly hates Woman. He hated his mum and doesn't speak to her so I assume this si where this truma came from. He's gota bpd and I theropy for it. But this is just so fuked up i feel like hes now like the men that make woman scared . Like wtf do I do. We have kids. We have worked so hard on improving our relationship and I thought we had . The porn i actually could careless about right now even the lying about it . But it's the deep down woman hating stuff that has me absolutely sick to my stomach. Wtf is he a physopath, narc like wtf ca. He be helped ! I know he will do any thing I recommend in order to try save his family but like can this shit change?