How do you be childfree as a muslim?

I havent married yet, thats because i dont want to have kids. I can use condoms but they wont work 100%. I cant do hysterectomy + My husband cant do a Vesectomy as both are not allowed. I only ever hear horror stories about IUDs . Abortions without cause are haram. Is my only solution to take birth control? a medication infamous for completely messing up a women's body, hormones, mental health?

I really REALLY want to get married, i really do. But i wont do it until i figure out a way to be childfree. (its gotten to a point where, whenever i go to my gynac for any health problems i sincerely pray that I'm infertile... Perfect health tho :/)